Set aside emotions as much as possible
Most people going through divorce, business dissolution, or other personal event feel a wide range of emotions including anger, sadness, and resentment. This is natural, but it’s important to realize that those emotions can affect how your legal agreement ends. Not only can it lead to even more hurt feelings, you could be facing a hefty court bill at the end if you let your emotions get the best of you.
Mediation is a way to help you come to a resolution DESPITE your emotions. We are that objective third-party observer who can look past emotionally charged situations to find a solution that makes sense for everyone.
Look to the future, not to the past
Again, it comes down to emotions. Focusing on what was can bring feelings of sadness and resentment to the surface. Looking to the future and concentrating how things can get better will improve your outlook and make the mediation process easier for you.
Come in with an open mind
Many people give up something they don’t want to. It’s unfortunate, but often it’s part of the give and take of any dispute resolution, whether you’re giving it up voluntarily in mediation or having it taken away from you in court.
It makes it easier to remember that most things are replaceable, either right now or sometime in the future. When it comes to possessions such as cars and furniture, consider how important those items really are to you compared to the cost and stress of trying to win them in court.
Plan for a whole day of mediation, though it may take longer
Mediation is usually faster than going to court, but it still takes time to come to an agreement on all the things in your lives. House, camp, vehicles, valuables, and investments all need to be looked at separately and as part of the bigger whole. Planning for what’s in the best interest of children can also be time consuming to ensure you get it right.
No matter what the situation from divorce to sorting out the details of a family will to dissolving a business partnership, mediation always goes more smoothly when all parties keep talking to each other.
Carefully consider your mediator’s recommendations, even if you disagree at first
Your professional mediator is there for a reason. It’s helpful to listen and consider why the mediator is suggesting a particular course of action. The mediator’s role is to provide an objective viewpoint for all parties, keeping everyone’s best interests in mind. In many cases, his or her recommendations won’t be far off from a court decision – though it will be much less costly if you reach an agreement before that point.